Archive for the ‘Self Confidence’ Category

Do you want to be luckier in life?

Do you want to feel better and live longer?

Questions like these are often the prelude to someone trying to sell you a magic pill that will take away all your woes and make you happy ever after. Would that there really were such a magic pill. But even though the pill is a fantasy, there really is a way to improve your ability to spot and grab opportunity ('luck') and improve your overall health and well-being and so potentially enhance your life expectancy.

It's called positive thinking.

Thinking is a skill

We are not talking about shutting your eyes and pretending that everything is okay when it's not. Nor about the so-called 'law of attraction' that tells you to put yourself in the 'right' frame of mind and you can have pretty well anything you want (that's just another 'magic pill'). We're talking about mastering the skill of identifying and utilizing whatever can be turned to your advantage out of any situation.

Of course, we are always trying to make the best of our circumstances, but we don't always go about it very effectively. We may have learnt certain negative habits of mind from our families or our society, or we may have a personal bent in our own character, that blind us to the real opportunities and possibilities open to us. But these attitudes are not unchangeable. You can learn to be more positive in your approach.

Hypnosis can help you develop a more positive approach to life

Positive thinking is an audio hypnosis session created by experienced psychologists who understand exactly how the brain sets up new patterns of responding to the world and how you can use this information for your own benefit.

As you relax deeply and repeatedly to the powerful hypnotic suggestions, you will find yourself almost effortlessly

• responding rather than just reacting to events and circumstances
• acknowledging your real strengths and building on them
• noticing more and more opportunities around you
• developing a calm persistence in the face of setbacks
• feeling naturally more positive about your life

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Do you worry what other people think and ignore your own opinion?

Do you find yourself trying to work out how other people will feel about a decision rather than considering your own point of view?

Of course we all need to consider other people to be decent and sensitive. But if we care too much what other people think we live by our imaginations of others thoughts! Do you really want to live like that?

To be a truly independent and self-confident person you need to start being more self-directed. What do you think? What do you want? What is your opinion?

When you start to care less what others think you'll start living your life not a dim reflection of what someone else thinks your life should be.

Other people often have it wrong!

The Beatles were initially rejected by music promoters, as late as the sixties many were still saying that putting a man on the moon was an impossibility. People laughed at Douglas Bader when he said he wanted to fly again after losing both legs after being shot down over Germany in WW2. Despite public opinion he went on to be one of the greatest flying aces. Did he care what others thought?

Public opinion is notoriously unreliable. Trust yourself more!

When you care too much what others think you are open to manipulation because you will tend to go with the herd. When you care less what other people think you become a more honest, and therefore decent, person because you don't have to pretend so much.

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If you've been getting the feeling that the way you speak is holding you back in life, you might wonder what can be done about that when you are no longer a child. In the old days, 'elocution' - the art of projecting your voice and clearly enunciating your words - was considered an important part of education. Nowadays, we are all seemingly expected to learn how to speak clearly by some sort of osmosis.

Where how you speak is not a problem

Of course, in many situations how you speak is not a matter of concern to anyone. At home with your family, for instance, or among your friends, nobody is bothered if you speak slowly or quickly, or loudly or softly. If you tend to mumble, or use lots of 'empty' words like 'you know', and 'basically', it's likely that the people around you do the same, so there is no problem.

Where speaking more clearly would bring serious benefits

But in other circumstances you will have noticed that more account is taken of how you speak. In a work environment, for instance, it may be fine for a very junior person not to have particularly good diction. But what if you want promotion? What if you need to make presentations or even just speak out in meetings? If you notice that other people speak much more clearly than you do, you may feel at a disadvantage.

Not speaking clearly can be tricky to deal with

And it may feel like an embarrassing disadvantage. Here you are, an adult, and you can't speak properly? That's not something anyone would feel comfortable admitting to. So you may hold back from going for those opportunities, even if you know you could be great, for fear that how you speak will let you down.

It's easier than you think to learn to speak more clearly

However, you can learn to speak more clearly and use your voice well to communicate better in all sorts of situations. You can start right away. You can seek out examples of good speakers on TV or on the web and set about emulating them. Even more importantly, you can take advantage of the unique power of hypnosis to help you make fast yet lasting changes in your own habitual speech patterns.

Hypnosis can help you master the art of speaking clearly

Speak Clearly is an audio hypnosis session designed to help you take full control of your powers of verbal communication and go as far as you want with it.

Setting aside time to listen to Speak Clearly - and to carry out the speaking exercises it suggests - will be one of the best things you've ever done for yourself. You will learn the three essential areas to focus on for better speech, and how to extend your range and control. You will discover how important (and easy) deep relaxation is for good communication. And you will receive powerful suggestions to integrate what you learn into your instinctive templates for communication.

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Lack of assertiveness can cause problems in all sorts of situations, not least in relationships and at work.

Assertiveness training often misses a vital ingredient - the ability to stay calm while stating your case, which often causes people to stop trying - they think being more assertive is beyond them.

The assertiveness training download takes care of this with:

• An original '4 step' assertiveness technique to help you be clear on what needs to be said
• Hypnotic rehearsal to ensure that when you use the model, you automatically stay relaxed
• Keeps your thoughts clear so you can follow through properly

Once you learn how to stand up for yourself in this way, and are able to say what's on your mind clearly and calmly, many positive changes result:

• People realize you know your own mind, they give you more respect and consider you capable of more responsibility
• You are treated with more respect within relationships
• You feel much better about yourself

Assertiveness Training can make such a huge difference today to how you feel about being assertive. Download it now, and enjoy the positive results created by becoming assertive in the days and weeks to come.

Every body has the potential to be a perfect body. And so everybody has the potential to have a perfect body. This is not just a play on words. The human form, as we know it today, is the product of millions of years of evolution, honing and refining form and function. And when it is given the right conditions to flourish, it is truly a wonder to behold. And a joy to live in.

Nature's rules of perfection - inheritance and environment

There are two critical factors in the revelation of the perfect body. The first is its relationship with nature, with the physical world in which it exists. What are the conditions in which it lives? Does it receive sufficient clean air? Light? Water? A good variety of nutritious food to provide energy and maintain health? Does the environment provide good opportunities for energetic exercise and restful relaxation?

When you look at the animal world, it is clear that this physical aspect is the only determining factor in whether you see a lion, or a dog, or a bird, or any other creature, with the attributes of perfection. Perfection of form is the result of a happy balance between a creature's natural genetic traits and the conditions in which it lives. When this balance is in place, perfection may almost be considered the norm.

Why perfection is not so simple for human beings

But when it comes to humans, the second critical factor comes into play. Unlike other animals, the ultimate body of the human being depends for its expression on the human mind. You see, your body is a statement about who you are minded to be. It is an expression of your self-respect, your self-discipline, your relationship with yourself. And all of that hugely influences your attractiveness - your sex appeal - to others.

So even if all the environmental factors are in place, or can be put in place, to allow your body to be the best it can be, you still need to engage with caring for it. You need to actively make the best of all the opportunities in your environment, so that your body can reach its full potential.

Easy to say. But you are certainly fully aware how hard it is to do.

Getting over the barriers to perfection with hypnosis

You hardly need to have someone point out the cultural and economic pressures which push us into leading such unhealthy lives. Or to tell you that our idea of 'perfection' can get seriously distorted by media images or our own obsessions. Or how hard it is to resist the temptation to get distracted from our real goals and take the easy way out. Which is why you know that to get the perfect body you need something 'extra'.

Get your perfect body is a powerful audio hypnosis session which will lift you out of that rut and give you the inner vision and drive to go for the difference that matters. As you relax deeply your mind will open to an utterly compelling vision of your best physical self. You will be like a sculptor working in stone - with a perfect image in your mind of the wonderfully proportioned form you are going to bring forth.

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Negative thinking can make all sorts of things incredibly difficult.

It is like a leak in your confidence bucket - constantly drip-drip-dripping away your confidence and self esteem.

We all know that we should think more positively, or avoid too many negative thoughts, but it is notoriously difficult to stop. Negative thinking can be useful to help assess the possible pitfalls in a potential plan of action, but you need to be able to turn it on and off at will.

Otherwise, negative thoughts will sabotage your self belief, your confidence and your achievements.

Stop Negative Thinking teaches you a model for assessing the effects of your thoughts and changing them, plus it helps you on an unconscious level by showing you how to let negative thoughts drift by without taking any notice.

After all - you can think anything as long as it doesn't have an emotional impact on you.

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It's really frustrating to see people around you enjoying themselves, easily talking and laughing with each other, and to feel completely out of it. Shyness and social anxiety can affect anyone, and it can really make social occasions difficult. It can make you feel tongue-tied and awkward, lost and inadequate. You may long for the ground to swallow you. Or for a magic wand to transform your shyness into confidence and ease.

Does social ease really exist?

Social anxiety is much more common than many people realize. Even people who look very confident and outgoing can be feeling terrified inside. They may just be better at hiding it. Which begs the question - is there really such a thing as true social ease? Are all those happy laughing people 'just pretending'? Is the solution to social discomfort just to get better at acting confident?

Putting on a social 'act' to overcome shyness

Well, it is true that acting 'as if' you already felt confident and at ease can help you handle social situations and work situations more comfortably. This is known as the 'fake it till you make it' approach, and it is quite effective. If you model yourself upon someone you know who is socially skilful, and do what they do, you will find that it gets easier for you too.

For some people, improving their 'act' will be enough to carry them into genuinely feeling at home in company. For others, there may still be a residue of discomfort and anxiety behind a competent social exterior, which may detract from real social enjoyment. This generally comes from having learned the right behaviors, but still being caught up in the old attitudes.

Why shyness seems to cling to some people

You see, to be truly at ease and comfortable associating with other people, in all sorts of different situations, you need to feel that you are on a par with everyone else. You have as much right to be there, and to speak and be heard and enjoy yourself, as anyone else. If you notice that you more regularly feel the 'odd one out', or convinced that no one could like you or be interested in you, it indicates that something is amiss.

But what?

Shyness is a natural part of growing up, which most people eventually come through as they mature into more confident adults. But the high emotions surrounding socializing when you are young can have a 'conditioning' effect which can make you respond to social events with fear instead of excitement and pleasure. Over time, this response becomes automatic and can start to feel as if it is part of your 'identity' - and fixed.

But it isn't fixed.

Shyness is how and not who - and so it can be changed

Responding to social situations with anxiety or shyness is not 'who you are', but only what you have 'learned to do'. It feels 'normal' to you not because it is part of your identity, but because it is what you regularly do. In short, it has become a habitual behavior. And although habits can feel as if they are hard to change, your brain is actually adept at updating such apparently instinctive patterns.

Using hypnosis to overcome shyness successfully and easily

Overcoming shyness and social anxiety is an audio hypnosis session which uses the power of hypnosis to help re-educate your unconscious mind (the part which holds instinctive, patterned behaviors).

Listening to Overcoming shyness and social anxiety will allow your unconscious mind to let go of old, unhelpful socializing patterns and adopt new and fruitful patterns which will make your social life immensely more enjoyable and rewarding. Using hypnosis, shyness can melt away, creating new patterns which will enable you to experience real social ease and go beyond just putting on a good performance.

Each time you listen to Overcoming shyness and social anxiety you will notice that

• you surprise yourself with your spontaneity with other people
• you feel so much more relaxed in all kinds of social situations
• your old anxiety just doesn't seem to happen any more
• you really start to enjoy socializing

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As if having your face go red wasn't enough, people who blush usually suffer from an additional problem - the fear of blushing. And the worst thing of all - someone noticing your blushing face or neck and commenting on it!

Three problems to avoid instead of one

So then you have 3 problems - how to stop blushing, controlling the fear you are going to blush and overcoming the fear of someone else bringing it to everyone else's attention.

And of course this makes blushing more likely to occur because these thoughts make you more self-conscious instead of less so.

A common mistake: "I must stop blushing"

Now most people who blush think that the cure for blushing is to never blush again; but just how realistic is that?

Facial blushing is a natural process that happens for a reason; yes - it can be made worse by the worry about it happening, but it is unreasonable to think "I have to know I will never blush again".

A more realistic and attainable goal is to become less bothered if you do blush. If you can blush and not really care, then do you really have a problem? And the amazing thing is; when you start to care less whether you blush or not, you blush less and less.

Stopping worrying about blushing leads to less blushing

To stop worrying and start blushing less, download the Cool Down Blushing hypnosis audio session now. All you need to do is pop on your headphones at your computer, or plug into your CD or mp3 player. You will listen to a short introduction designed to shift your thinking about blushing, and then experience a wonderfully relaxing hypnosis session that will teach you how to keep cool.

The Cool Down Blushing session will lead you through a powerful hypnotic rehearsal, preparing your mind and body to respond the way you want;

• be more relaxed in stressful situations
• be unconcerned about blushing
• cool down quickly even if you do blush

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Do you have a generally negative opinion of yourself - and so of your prospects in life?

Does your self esteem need a boost?

'Self esteem' is a fashionable concept. Just about every social and personal ill you can think of has been attributed to the effects of low self esteem. Millions of words have appeared on the subject - but sadly they're not all helpful. You could easily get the idea that high self esteem is the 'holy grail' and what you 'should' have. But actually, if it is too high it can bring just as many problems as if it is too low.

So here's a few more words about self esteem. Important ones.

Why does looking after your self esteem matter?

Your opinion of yourself, what you think of your own 'worth', really does make a difference to your life. If you mistakenly value yourself too low, many things can go wrong. You may

• blame yourself for things that aren't your fault
• underestimate your own abilities
• expect things to go wrong for you

But when you have an appropriate, balanced view of yourself, you can

• be much fairer to yourself
• be more objective about your strong points
• have more confidence in your abilities
• feel calmer when you think about yourself and your future
• think more positively about life generally

So, rather than going flat out for high self esteem, the best way forward is to work on building it to a healthy level that will help you get more out of life and feel more comfortable with yourself.

Hypnosis can help you boost your self esteem

Building self esteem is an audio hypnosis session which will help you do just this. This powerful session will allow you to relax very deeply and connect with the core truth about you. It will

• remind you of your good qualities
• improve your self confidence
• give you the inner strength to come through difficult times
• help you feel better about yourself
• improve your social and working relationships

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Do presentations, meetings, social events – whatever, stress you out and test your self confidence?

Do nerves make you self conscious, stumble over words, or perform below par?

Low self confidence can make life tricky and sometimes downright unpleasant. You don’t get the best from opportunities and you may even avoid situations because you simply don’t believe you can cope as well as others do.

This Quick Confidence Booster hypnosis session does what it says – it hypnotically builds your confidence, allowing you to be more relaxed and capable in situations that were previously challenging.

All you need to do is pop on your headphones at your computer, or plug into your CD or mp3 player. You will listen to a short introduction designed to shift your thinking about confidence, and then experience a wonderfully relaxing, self confidence building hypnosis session that will dramatically increase your faith in your own abilities and improve your performance in the situation itself.

The Quick Confidence Booster will lead you through a powerful hypnotic rehearsal, preparing your mind and body to respond the way you want;

• be calm and sound confident
• remain relaxed and self assured
• appear in control

This professional hypnosis session will deliver a deep and lasting boost to your self confidence, freeing you from self doubt and confidence crises.

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