Archive for the ‘Self Confidence’ Category

We all know what it's like. You start something new and your energy seems boundless. You feel invincible, on-top-of-the-world, destined to success.

Then something happens.

Worry starts to creep in, fears begin to fester, and before you know it, your golden goal is nothing but a lump of lead dragging you down.

That's where Developing Powerful Optimism comes in...

Not only will it give you a boost of motivation and energy, but the more you experience it, the more optimistic you will feel - about work, relationships, family and life in general.

The positive messages and uplifting metaphors in our hypnosis for optimism session will refresh your drive and determination to succeed, propelling you towards your goals.

You'll be able to rely on 'the back part of your mind' to deliver the right attitude for success, enabling you to get on with the business of succeeding.

And add to that the well-proven fact that optimists are:

• healthier (mentally and physically)
• less prone to anxiety and depression
• have higher levels of success

and you've got a real reason to experience the optimism download on a regular basis!

Get Develop Powerful Optimism and enjoy expecting the best...

Of course, paying attention to your appearance and hygiene can't hurt, but there is more to feeling attractive than that.  And being attractive is little to do with simply looking attractive - it is much more to do with the way you feel, and so, the way you come across to others.

When you feel attractive, you become attractive.

When you feel more attractive, this comes across in all your communication - both verbal and body language - and people pick this up unconsciously, without even knowing it. All they know is that they feel attracted to you.

All you need to do is pop on your headphones at your computer, or plug into your CD or mp3 player.  You will listen to a short introduction designed to shift your thinking about attractiveness, and then experience a deeply relaxing, confidence building hypnosis session that will dramatically improve how you feel about your appearance and attractiveness.

Feel Attractive Now! will inspire the unconscious confidence you need to present yourself as an attractive person. You will naturally feel better about the way you look without having to think about it, as the gentle hypnosis re-educates your mind to see things in a way that makes you feel good about yourself.  You will;

• be less critical of your everyday appearance
• have more "good hair" days
• be more relaxed in company
• see how others appear more attractive and attracted to you.

Get Feel Attractive Now!, and look forward to not only feeling attractive, but really becoming more attractive.

Do you regularly get lost in sad or bitter thoughts about past events in your life?

Does it often seem like it's not worth trying because it will only all 'turn out badly again'?

We human beings are always looking for patterns in our experience. It's how we make sense of the world. "This is like that," we notice, and then we proceed to treat 'that' as if it was actually 'this'. This system works pretty well for most things and has been a driver of our evolutionary success as a species. It helps us to decide more easily what course of action to take in the face of new situations and experiences.

Why is it sometimes so hard to let go of the past, even when you try?

But in individual cases you can sometimes get a problematic mismatch between 'this' and 'that' - as if a sort of 'system error' occurs in your mental software. This typically happens when strong emotions are involved. You will be most sharply aware of, and will most vividly remember, things about which you have strong feelings. And those patterns will therefore influence your choices more strongly than others.

So if certain troubling or sad events or situations in your life history were also highly emotional for you, they can loom rather large in your mind and make you hyper-sensitive to similar seeming patterns in the present. You make a link between things in the past and things that feel similar in the present - even if they are not really similar at all. As if you are 'tarring everything with the same brush'.

For example, someone who was previously in a very unhappy relationship may find themselves inexplicably getting feelings of fear or anger like those they used to have in the old relationship, even if their current relationship is good. They make a faulty link between the old and the new situation based on a learned pattern of relationship ('it sucks') which can then cause unexpected difficulties in the current relationship.

To let go of the past, you need to change how you feel about it

Of course, you can't 'unhappen' what happened in your past. So are you doomed to live with such faulty links and their undesirable consequences for ever? Are you stuck with going over and over what happened and wishing it was otherwise?

No, because, although you cannot rewrite history, you can change how you feel about it. And you can do this by taking the emotional charge out of the memories. This involves making an emotional shift inside yourself and finding a healthier, more positive perspective on those past events.

And the easiest and most effective way to make such a change is by using hypnosis - a wonderful tool for comfortably modifying apparently 'locked in' behaviors and attitudes, one which evolution has given you alongside your 'pattern match' system. It's what you might call the 'system tools' for dealing with the 'system errors'.

Hypnosis can help you see your past in a new light

Let go of the past is an audio hypnosis session created by psychologists which will transform your battle to escape your history into a wonderfully comfortable experience of inner transformation that will bring new freedom and energy to your life.

As you use this download regularly, you will begin to notice more and more that you

• think less and less frequently about sad or painful past events
• spend more time focusing on your present and future life
• feel more detached and at ease when old memories do come to mind
• sense a great boost of energy and enthusiasm for life
• enjoy yourself more

Download Let go of the past and set your future free.

Why do people like people who are spontaneous? Maybe it's because they're funny, maybe because they make you relax, or maybe it's because they seem honest; like they're not hiding anything

Whatever the reason, people who can 'be themselves' socially often seem more attractive. And what's more, you can be sure they're really enjoying socializing too.

But just what is 'spontaneity'? What does it mean to 'be yourself'?

Well let's take a look at the opposite to see if that clears things up for us. When you are being very self conscious socially, you are more anxious and aware of yourself, and consciously monitoring everything you say

So, when you are feeling spontaneous, you feel more relaxed, are aware more of others than yourself and allow your communication to 'flow' and you trust yourself

And this last point is really the most important. The ability to trust yourself allows you to relax and really enjoy social situations, without having to watch everything you say, guessing how others will react, and whether it is funny or not.

The Being Yourself Socially download will help you retrain your unconscious responses to social situations so you are able to:

• Relax socially
• Let your communication flow without having to think about every word
• Be yourself and so attract others who like 'the real you'

Get Being Yourself Socially and just watch as your social enjoyment increases...

Are you a born worrier, a proper 'worry wart'?

Do you get yourself worked up stressing about all the things that could go wrong, and how hard it will be to deal with?

Joe Walsh's 'Worry Song', from the very first verse, sends up just what we are like when we are worrying ourselves silly over things:

Well, I worry about my present situation
My bookie says my odds are next to none
But I'd worry if my chances were improving
I got ulcers from the worrying I've done -
And they worry too!

We can all recognize ourselves in that.

The purpose of worrying

But is it really pointless? Surely such a widespread behavior must have some evolutionary value, or there wouldn't be so many of us doing it? The answer is, of course it does. We humans have some capacity for predicting the future, and this enable us to foresee problems in advance and find ways to overcome or circumvent them. That's what worry is for.

So when people tell you that you should 'stop worrying', this doesn't mean that you should stop caring about how things might turn out and preparing yourself as best you can for future situations. What it means is that you shouldn't fret so much about things that you actually paralyze yourself into inaction.

Worrying is misuse of the imagination

Your imagination is nature's tool to get you envisaging better futures and new possibilities. Worrying is the misuse of this powerful tool. When you overdo it, you are effectively making bad stuff up, believing it and then feeling bad!

And worriers all think in the same way, in all or nothing, black or white terms: "This is going to be a total disaster, a catastrophe, a complete nightmare, I will be totally ruined"

How do you learn to stop worrying? Is there a cure for it?

Stop worrying is an audio hypnosis session which taps into the very same processes that 'hypnotize' you with overblown fears and anxieties over what might happen to deflate these concerns and 'bring them down to size'. Instead of getting worked up, you will find yourself naturally relaxing down, feeling deeply calm and peaceful. All the same 'issues' might still be there - but you feel quite different about them.

As you listen repeatedly to your download and instill these new patterns deep in your mind, you'll notice that you

• feel a lot better day-to-day and achieve more
• stop second-guessing the future and assuming bad things
• feel relaxed about not knowing how things will turn out
• assume that whatever happens, you'll cope
• enjoy yourself a whole lot more.

Download Stop worrying and let go of all that excess anxiety.

Have you ever got really worked up about something and then done or said something that you later bitterly regretted? Did you wonder what came over you? Or why you couldn't control your emotions? Have you noticed that this sort of situation is more likely to occur with certain kinds of emotions, such as anger, or jealousy? Have you begun to worry about how often it happens?

Understanding emotions and emotional control

Everybody has emotions. Emotions are chemical signals fired off by your nervous system in response to what's going on around you. They let you know how you feel about things - happy, angry, sad, excited, jealous. Whatever it is. And they don't lie. These instant, instinctive responses of your body to the world are always truthful. But not always right!

The evolution and purpose of emotions - keeping you safe

Why have we evolved emotional responses? Well, the flow of these chemicals through your body, triggered by events and situations around you, gets you doing something. You'll notice that the word 'emotion' contains the word 'motion', that is, movement. Emotions are there to induce action.

Basic survival depends on being able to recognise and respond to a threat. If our lives are threatened, we need to fight, or run away. This is our most fundamental emotional response - our 'fight or flight' mechanism. It sends a rush of adrenaline around the body, raises your heart rate, stops your digestion, makes your palms sweat. It's quite uncomfortable, but very effective - in the right circumstances.

Too much emotion overwhelms your judgement

Emotional arousal, in pursuit of its goal of getting you into action, also has an apparently counter-productive effect. If the level of arousal goes beyond a certain point, you literally can't think straight. The neo-cortex (basically, the part of your brain responsible for rational thinking), is a relatively new development in human evolution. The amygdale, which is the driver of emotional responses, is much 'older'.

In a crisis situation, when the amygdale identifies a 'threat' and triggers an emotional response, it will cut off the neo-cortex and operate at a purely emotional level. In this state, you will see everything in very black-and-white, all-or-nothing terms. You will be absolutely certain of the 'rightness' of your position, and nobody attempting to 'reason' with you will get anywhere. Sound familiar?

Why the neo-cortex gets sidelined by emotion

At first sight, it's a puzzle why our inbuilt defence mechanism shuts down thinking capacity in a crisis. Surely this is when we need it most? But in the primitive life or death situations in which this mechanism evolved, 'thinking about things' would not be very useful. Snap decisions and instant action are what is called for.

So if the amygdale senses a threat to life, it shuts down all other processes (appetite, digestion, sex drive, immune system - and thinking) and focuses on immediate survival.

Primitive emotional responses don't match the times

And now you're wondering what's the matter with your amygdale. Nobody is threatening your life, are they? (I hope!) The good news is that your amygdale is functioning just as it should. But the world in which it is functioning is now very different. There may not be a sabre-toothed tiger waiting to pounce on you, but if your boss is about to haul you over the coals, you may feel just like your ancestor suddenly seeing the tiger.

What's happening is that your amygdale is responding to the sense of threat. It's a primitive mechanism, and can't distinguish one type of threat from another. It's just threat. To distinguish between threats, and respond appropriately, you need your neo-cortex, with its reasoning powers.

But how do you prevent your neo-cortex from being put out of action by emotion?

How to put your neo-cortex in control of your emotions

Emotions are a very valuable part of being human, and enrich our lives immensely. Without them, we would be dull robots indeed. But they can run away with us unless we learn to keep them in check. A happy balance between reason and emotion can be struck by learning how to calm down emotional arousal. This allows you to have your feelings and still be able to think clearly.

Using hypnosis to create a new 'template' for controlling emotion

Hypnotic relaxation is your fastest route to calming down all kinds of emotional arousal. Control your emotions will allow you to experience and master the art of deep relaxation - which will automatically reduce arousal.

Control your emotions gives you the tools you need to become the 'master of your ship' - able to access all the drive and energy you need to take action, but also able to determine just what action is really appropriate calmly and objectively. You will build up a new instinctive template for response to crisis and challenge which makes the best use of your emotional responses.

Download Control your emotions and take charge.

Sometimes you just don't see them and sometimes you do but something stops you from grabbing them with both hands and forging them into success and triumph.

Maybe you feel like you sometimes rain on your own parade, or that you've often been so nearly 'there' - and then 'screwed up' at the last moment. So many 'would have beens' could have been if it weren't for wasteful subconscious self-destructiveness.

Stop Self Sabotage will get you on your own side. Whether it's early conditioning from other people, or just a little voice in your head that's tried to tell you you didn't deserve success or just weren't good enough, Stop Self-Sabotage will stop you getting in your own way.

Some people have an unconscious fear of achievement based on the sense that 'the higher you climb the further you fall'. Stop self-sabotage will encourage you to feel safe and relaxed about your future achievements and success.

All you need to do is pop on your headphones at your computer or plug into your CD or mp3 player and relax as limiting beliefs and perceptions begin to shift and powerful beneficial change gets under way.

Download Stop self sabotage and discover how much more you're capable of today...

Most people have problems overcoming insecurity at some point in their life, and it manifests in different ways.

It may be that social insecurity is the main problem for you, or it may be a more general feeling. The problem with insecurity is that it causes anxiety, and makes you think negatively about yourself - impacting on your confidence and self esteem.

Ongoing insecurity can make many things difficult - socializing, relationships, learning new skills - it simply gets in the way.

This session will lead you gently through a process to improve your self image, boost your confidence and self esteem, and teach you to use your imagination constructively to help make all sorts of activities easier.

Whether you have problems with social insecurity, lack of self belief, or a more general lack of confidence in yourself, this hypnosis download will help make your life so much easier - and allow you to enjoy yourself much, much more.

Download Overcoming Insecurity now and take pleasure in the soothing, supportive deep relaxation and positive messages for you and your future.

Just how do you kick off a conversation at a party?

What if you 'say the wrong thing' on a date?

How do you take a conversation in an interesting direction and keep people engaged?

If you've always left the task of leading the conversation to others, but wish you could do it better yourself, the Be a Conversation Starter download is for you.

Be a Conversation Starter banishes self consciousness and nerves, allowing you to feel much calmer and confident starting up conversations. Good conversations and a positive initial connection can be the start of great friendships and relationships.

The Conversation Starter hypnosis session will lay down a new blueprint for making conversation, so that you feel excited and stimulated at the prospect of talking to someone new. When you relax, your words flow more easily and you know it really doesn't matter what you imagine other people think of you. You won't be left struggling for a topic to talk about as your brain is so much more creative when relaxed.

Feeling relaxed and confident enough to approach people socially and make conversation makes you more fun and interesting for others to be around. When you relaxed, they relax, leaving them feeling that you are fun to chat to.

Use Be a conversation starter today and notice the difference the next time you have a chance to strike up a conversation....

Being self conscious is horrible. That nasty feeling that everyone is watching you, judging you and you are the unwanted center of attention.

Of course we can all have some awareness of what others might think of us at least some of the time. If we didn't have this natural consideration we would be antisocial. But to always be self conscious around others mean that we become afraid to speak our minds, to innovate or to enjoy ourselves fully.

Self consciousness stops you:

• Enjoying yourself
• Behaving naturally
• Learning or performing as well as you could
• Making new friends
• Focusing on other people and getting to know them

Thinking styles of self conscious people

Self consciousness makes you think in very black or white-all or nothing terms. 'They hate me!' or 'I'm making a total fool of myself!' These type of internal statements are extreme because they are driven by the emotional brain.

Hypnosis helps you calm down

When you begin to calm down then your thinking becomes less extreme and more moderate, you stop assuming other people are thinking the worst of you? Why? Because you stop thinking so much or, I should say 'imagining' so much about other people's perceptions and focus on your own instead.

Stop Being Self Conscious from hypnosisdownloads.com will get you feeling super relaxed and less fearful of what you imagine other people are thinking about you.

Misuse of the imagination

If you are self conscious you are basically making stuff up in your head and believing it-just because you made it up!

Self conscious people use their own imaginations against themselves. They assume the can mind-read what others must be thinking. And they assume their assumptions are correct.

In fact, of course, most people are thinking about themselves more than they are thinking about you. But that's not the point - you might know that intellectually but this session will get you feeling that.

Download Stop Being Self Conscious from hypnosisdownlods.com now and start living you own life.